Why is it that Father’s Day never seems to get the same respect as Mother’s Day? Every Mother’s Day, newspapers are brimming with stories about that special mother who did something wonderful, the television screens are full of ads with soothing music and perfect jewellery, flowers and breakfast in bed ideas.
MOST FATHERS TAKE THE GOLD MEDAL FOR THE SACRIFICES THEY MAKE
My dad died in 2006 from melanoma. Our relationship was complicated, to say the very least, but his death still left an enormous hole that even as an adult I struggle to fill. As the first born, my dad placed huge expectations on me, expectations that I probably didn’t meet most of the time. For me, I saw my dad as too difficult to deal with and probably rebelled far more than he knew how to handle. Age, marriage and motherhood has altered my way of looking at my father and what his role in my life meant.
It is so easy in hindsight to wax lyrical on my dad’s memory, but the truth is, I really appreciate who he was. No matter the wall that we both put up at certain times in our lives, because we both shared an inordinate amount of stubbornness, my father was just that… my father. The man who was there are the beginning, was standing behind and encouraging (or gently nudging) me throughout the years and who I had the privilege of being with at his end.
NEVER UNDERESTIMATE THE ROLL A FATHER PLAYS IN YOUR LIFE
Today, as I watch my husband interact with our daughters and grandchildren, I realise how lucky they are to also have someone who will be behind them to give a gentle shove or to just pick up the pieces; someone who will move heaven and hell to make their dreams come true; someone who will never take no for an answer (on their behalf) and someone who will simply just be there.
My hope for my family is that they are all given the gift of time to celebrate their father and grandfather and the impact he has on their day to day lives and to never lose site of the unbridled love he has for every single one of them.
And to all the dads, the step-dads, not dads yet, should be dads, first-time dads, grandfathers, dads-in-law, godfathers and those men that step up to show a child what it truly means to be a Father – Happy Fathers Day. Today is your day.
TO ALL THE DADS, GRANDADS AND EVERY MAN WHO STEPS UP – HAPPY FATHERS DAY